FRIENDS            

        

       “This is my commandment, that you love one

             another as I have loved you. Greater love

             has no man than this, that a man lay down

             his life for his friends. You are my friends

             if you do what I command you. No longer do

             I call you servants, for the servant does not

             know what his master is doing; but I have

             called you friends, for all that I have heard

             from my Father I have made known to you....”     

                                          John 15:12-15

        

         All of us who at some point turned from our old life

         and followed Jesus into the Kingdom are aware that we

         have now been brought into a set of new relationships

         ...Jesus is now our Lord....God is our Father...We’re

         brothers and sisters. To put it another way, we’ve

         been brought into a family relationship with God who

         is our Father, with Jesus who is our Elder Brother, and

         with each other.

        

         But for most of us, most of the time, our family re-

         lationship with God and with each other is like many

         family relationships.

 

              -    A father and son may be father and son

                   and yet have never become friends

                   ...really friends.

              -    A husband and wife may be married for

                   twenty years...they may have been faith-

                   ful to each other as husband and wife

                   for those twenty years,

                       live in the same house,

                       sleep in the same bed,

                       eat at the same table,

      

                   and yet they have never become friends

                   ...really friends,

         

         In the same way, I may think of Jesus as my Lord....

         but do I really see him as my friend?

        

             Our Father who art in heaven,

             Hallowed be thy name,

                              - God is my Father....but

                                is he my friend?

        

         Here are my brothers and sisters,

        

             -   washed in the same blood,

             -   anointed in the same Spirit,

 

         I belong to them and they belong to me forever. But

         do I see then as friends?

        

         If I can’t see Jesus as my friend it becomes very hard

         to commune with him through the day...to practice his

         presence, to walk with him and talk with him. If I

         can’t see the heavenly Father truly as my friend,

         prayer becomes a difficult thing. How can I pray if

         in my mind he seems to be indifferent, looking the

         other way?

        

         What kind of fellowship can I have in this assembly

         if I can’t see these brothers and sisters as friends?

         They may be hardheaded.....like I am,

                  a little crazy....like me,

                  irritating,

                  vain, unstable....like me. But how can

         I serve the Lord with gladness, together with them,

         unless I see them as my friends?

        

         And if I’m having trouble thinking of these brothers

         and sisters as friends, how can I help but be para-

         noid when some needy soul comes in out of that storm

         out there and asks for help? How can I possibly be

         a friend to the poor,

                        the maimed,

                        the lame,

                        the blind, who live in the streets of the

         cities of this world?

        

         What a change will come over our lives when we begin

         to see Jesus not only as our Lord, but also as our

         Friend.

        

             “This is my commandment, that you love one

             another as I have loved you. Greater love

             has no man than this, that a man lay down

             his life for his friends. You are my friends

             if you do what I command you....”

       

         And what has he commanded us?

        

             -  To love one another.

        

             -  To lay down our lives for each other as he

                laid down his life for us.

        

         As we do this, we experience Jesus’ presence in our

         midst as our friend.

        

             -  He eats with us.

        

             -  He manifests himself to us in the breaking of bread.

     

             -  He gives us his own body for food and his

                               blood for drink.

 

               No longer do I call you servants, for

               the servant does not know what his master

               is doing; but I have called you friends,

               for all that I have heard from my Father

               I have made known to you.

        

         Even now as we hold fellowship with him, Jesus takes

         everything the Father gives him and passes it on to

         us through the Holy Spirit. We’re not just Jesus’

         servants who really don’t know what he’s up to....

         we’re his friends. He makes known to us what he’s

         doing in heaven and on earth right now.

        

               -   He gives us his peace.

               -   He imparts to us his life.

               -   He opens our eyes to see things as he sees

                                               them.

        

         God help us to see Jesus today as our friend who

        

                          - knows us by name,

                          - walks by our side,

                          - guides our steps,

                          - lives within us.

        

         What a change will come over our lives when we begin

         to see the heavenly Father as our friend.

      

              And he said to them, “Which of you who has

              a friend will go to him at midnight and say

              to him, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves; for

              a friend of mine has arrived on a journey,

              and I have nothing to set before him’; and

              he will answer from within, ‘Do not bother

              me; the door is now shut, and my children

              are with me in bed; I cannot get up and give

              you anything’? I tell you, though he will

              not get up and give him anything because he

              is his friend, yet because of his importunity

              he will rise and give him whatever he needs.

              And I tell you, Ask, and it will be given

              you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it

              will be opened to you. For every one who asks

              receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him

              who knocks it will be opened. What father among

              you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of

              a fish give him a serpent; or if he asks for an       

              egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, who

              are evil, know how to give good gifts to your

              children, how much more will the heavenly Father

              give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

                                       Luke 11:5-13

        

         The friend we go to at midnight to ask for bread is our

         heavenly Father who does give because he is our friend.

         It’s because we don’t see the Father as our friend

         that we’re afraid to ask. We’re not sure how he feels

         about us...we’ve been rejected so often, maybe the

         Lord will reject us too.

        

             -  “No he won’t, he’s your friend!”

        

         We’re afraid that if we knock on that door and the

         Father looks out and sees it’s us, he’ll slam the door

         and tell us to get lost.

        

             -  “No he won’t.”

        

         In this age of mercy...every one who asks receives,

                            he who seeks finds,

                            to him who knocks it will be

         opened. The Father is our friend. He wants to give

         us more than we could ask or think.

        

            “....if you who are evil know how to give good

            gifts to your children, how much more will

            the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to

            those who ask him!”

        

         What a change will come over our lives when we begin

         to see our brothers and sisters, for all their short-

         comings, as friends.

        

               “Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on

               earth shall be bound in heaven, and what-

               ever you loose on earth shall be loosed

               in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of

               you agree on earth about anything they

               ask, it will be done for them by my Father

               in heaven. For where two or three are

               gathered in my name, there am I in the

               midst of them.”

        

               Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord,

               how often shall my brother sin against me,

               and I forgive him? As many as seven times?”

               Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you

               seven times, but seventy times seven....”       

                                   Matthew 18:18-22

        

         The power to bind on earth and it shall be bound in

         heaven, to loose on earth and it shall be loosed in

         heaven, is contingent on a unity of friendship that

         is so real it is willing to forgive seventy times

         seven.

        

         The privilege of being able to gather in Jesus’ name

         and know that he is here as our friend, is contingent

         on a unity of friendship that is true and faithful

         and forgiving in his name. How can we be gathered

         in his name and stay at odds with each other? It’s

         a thing of attitude. It’s looking around at these

         faces and choosing to see that these brothers and

         sisters...for all their shortcomings, and all my

         shortcomings... are my friends.

        

         It has nothing to do with how many hobbies we have

         in common, how much time we spend with each other,

         whether we have the same political views. It’s an

         act of the heart that I make in the spirit of the

         Lord. I look at these people and know that they’re

         not just my spiritual brothers and sisters...they’re

         my friends.

 

         What a change will come over our lives when we begin

         to see those needy ones out there as friends.

  

             ...for a friend of mine has arrived on a

                journey, and I have nothing to set before

                him;...             Luke 11:6

        

         The friend who has come on a journey and needs some

         hospitality is a person who has not yet tasted the

         goodness of God. He’s still outside the Kingdom, but

         he’s a friend.

        

         Jesus was deridingly called a friend of tax collectors

         and sinners, as if that were a bad thing. But he was

         a friend of tax collectors and sinners, and he still

         is. And if we’re his friends, we are their friends too.

        

         These walls we build between ourselves and the “people

         of the world”, as we so often call them,

 

             - as if they were our enemies,

             - as if we were superior,

             - as if we must somehow keep ourselves spiritually

                     sanitary by avoiding these people,

 

         these walls of isolation and self-righteousness have

         to come down. We have only one enemy...Satan and his

         kingdom. Those people who are victims of Satan’s

         lies are not our enemies ----

         (“We wrestle not against flesh and blood...”)

        

                            ---they’re our friends!

        

            “This is my commandment, that you love one

            another as I have loved you. Greater love

            has no man than this, that a man lay down

            his life for his friends. You are my friends

            if you do what I command you. No longer do

            I call you servants, for the servant does not

            know what his master is doing; but I have

            called you friends, for all that I have heard

            from my Father I have made known to you...”

 

         Today the Spirit of the Lord is calling us to put

         away our paranoia and see Jesus for what he is:

         our friend, and let him draw us to himself and make

         us, through his shed blood,

        

              friends of God,

              friends of each other,

              friends of those wounded who are still

              staggering around out there in the world.

        

         At this table we commune with Jesus, our crucified

         and risen Friend. And as we do he tears away the

         veil anew making God our Friend. We become members

         one of another. One loaf,

                                one cup,

                                one body... .friends.

         And after we commune we become broken bread and

         poured out wine for the world...friends of the lost ones.

        

         As we eat his body and drink his blood, may the Lamb

         Of God who takes away our sin warm our hearts and

         make us friends of God,

                      friends of each other.

                      friends of the lost.      

        

        

                          

                     

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